I've been thinking about what Friendship means over the past few days .... bout the past (a bad habit of mine), the present and I've given up trying to picture the future, when it comes to making friends.... And as today is Friendship Day .... I thought that this might be relevant ....
So when I think bout friendship I wonder, do we really know the meaning of that word ??? I mean the words 'friend' and 'friendship' are really powerful words but in this day and age its significance has been diluted by ppl in the virtual world who take pride in having hundreds of "friends" on facebook, and other social networking sites, who they barely even know, and ppl who in the real world are surrounded, by 'friends', but the truth is all those so called friends only see the benefits that they can suck out of that 'friendship', and once those benefits have been exhausted, the "FRIENDSHIP" also comes to an end ....
This reminds me of the verse from the Bible which says "One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." (Proverbs 18:24) I mean isn't that what friendship is really supposed to be about ... Isn't it supposed to be a relationship where two persons, according to wikipedia, have "mutual affection for each other", or as I would like to put it, where two persons help each other along in their respective journey of life, who thru the ups and downs, let every experience strengthen the bond between them .... But today this has become just wishful thinking ....
I have seen so many ppl who look like they are the best of friends, the way they walk, the way they talk and their actions all point towards an image of an 'unbreakable bond' of "friendship", but only when you look closely at them do u realise that their relationship has no foundation whatsoever ..... Its just a beautiful building, just waiting to crumble .... After seeing this it made me think that we should use the word 'friend' really carefully, because the truth is that most of the ppl we do know are actually 'acquaintances', and not 'friends' .....
I have personally had a lot of bad experiences in the area of friends, almost to the point where I was paranoid when it came to making friends ..... After tym and again being let down at every attempt at friendship, I came to this conclusion ..... 'I will never have a FRIEND in the true sense of the word' .... I lived like that until my eyes were opened to the truth, and I realised that I was ABSOLUTELY wrong.... I had a friend all along, one who never left my side, who stood beside me every time I cried and felt the same pain I did, who never betrayed me even though I was ungrateful and hurtful, even when I betrayed our trust, one who just loved me for who I was .... And only after I reached the end of my rope did I actually realise that .... It took me several betrayals, uncountable occassions of being hurt and finally reaching the end of my rope, to realise that JESUS was right beside me in every single one of those moments, carrying me thru ....
This reminds me of another verse from the Bible which says "Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends." (John 15:13) I dont know a single person who would be willing to lay down their life for a person who has hurt, insulted, and stabbed them in the back, except Jesus, who did just that for you and me ....
"Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:7,8)
So on this day dedicated to friends, this is the message I want to pass onto those who think that I don't have anybody to call as friend .....You are never alone, though ppl whom u trusted may let u down, though there is pain and hurt in ur heart and though u may think that u have been scarred beyond the point of fixing, and the reason I can say this with confidence is coz Jesus, died in replacement of you and me, and He didnt remain that way He conquered death and now is, and always will be beside u thru the good and bad times, all u have to do is accept His free gift of love ..... And to those who have so many "friends".... I say this "Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly reliable?"(Proverbs 20:6) So beware of those you call as 'friends' ...
So when I think bout friendship I wonder, do we really know the meaning of that word ??? I mean the words 'friend' and 'friendship' are really powerful words but in this day and age its significance has been diluted by ppl in the virtual world who take pride in having hundreds of "friends" on facebook, and other social networking sites, who they barely even know, and ppl who in the real world are surrounded, by 'friends', but the truth is all those so called friends only see the benefits that they can suck out of that 'friendship', and once those benefits have been exhausted, the "FRIENDSHIP" also comes to an end ....
This reminds me of the verse from the Bible which says "One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." (Proverbs 18:24) I mean isn't that what friendship is really supposed to be about ... Isn't it supposed to be a relationship where two persons, according to wikipedia, have "mutual affection for each other", or as I would like to put it, where two persons help each other along in their respective journey of life, who thru the ups and downs, let every experience strengthen the bond between them .... But today this has become just wishful thinking ....
I have seen so many ppl who look like they are the best of friends, the way they walk, the way they talk and their actions all point towards an image of an 'unbreakable bond' of "friendship", but only when you look closely at them do u realise that their relationship has no foundation whatsoever ..... Its just a beautiful building, just waiting to crumble .... After seeing this it made me think that we should use the word 'friend' really carefully, because the truth is that most of the ppl we do know are actually 'acquaintances', and not 'friends' .....
I have personally had a lot of bad experiences in the area of friends, almost to the point where I was paranoid when it came to making friends ..... After tym and again being let down at every attempt at friendship, I came to this conclusion ..... 'I will never have a FRIEND in the true sense of the word' .... I lived like that until my eyes were opened to the truth, and I realised that I was ABSOLUTELY wrong.... I had a friend all along, one who never left my side, who stood beside me every time I cried and felt the same pain I did, who never betrayed me even though I was ungrateful and hurtful, even when I betrayed our trust, one who just loved me for who I was .... And only after I reached the end of my rope did I actually realise that .... It took me several betrayals, uncountable occassions of being hurt and finally reaching the end of my rope, to realise that JESUS was right beside me in every single one of those moments, carrying me thru ....
This reminds me of another verse from the Bible which says "Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends." (John 15:13) I dont know a single person who would be willing to lay down their life for a person who has hurt, insulted, and stabbed them in the back, except Jesus, who did just that for you and me ....
"Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:7,8)
So on this day dedicated to friends, this is the message I want to pass onto those who think that I don't have anybody to call as friend .....You are never alone, though ppl whom u trusted may let u down, though there is pain and hurt in ur heart and though u may think that u have been scarred beyond the point of fixing, and the reason I can say this with confidence is coz Jesus, died in replacement of you and me, and He didnt remain that way He conquered death and now is, and always will be beside u thru the good and bad times, all u have to do is accept His free gift of love ..... And to those who have so many "friends".... I say this "Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly reliable?"(Proverbs 20:6) So beware of those you call as 'friends' ...
So this post is dedicated to my Best Friend Forever, JESUS and also to my true friends out there ....
Here's wishing you all a HAPPY AND BLESSED FRIENDSHIP DAY !!!!!
